These days, more and more swinger couples and singles are trying to have a threesome, no matter for fun or for spicing up their relationship. Threesome can be both fun and upset. If you are a swinger couple, it can also be dangerous for your relationship. Inviting another person into your sexual life and sharing your partner with him/her is not something that as usual as adding another person to your dinner table. There will definitely be some negative feelings. If you don’t talk about it beforehand, you will be regretting it when that minute comes, just like me. Also, for swinger singles, you should also communicate with the couples before jumping into the pool. If there is something you can’t handle, don’t hesitate to bring it out. Negotiation is better than aftereffect.
Anyway, I had a failed threesome experience which caused some serious aftereffect to my relationship. That is why I am so in favor of pre-threesome communication. My ex-boyfriend and I were going out for almost a year before we decided to try a threesome. It was our first time, both for me and for him. We had a nice relationship and strong connection with each other, at least that was what we thought. We both wanted to try something exciting and different. Threesome was his sexual fantasy and he also managed to persuade it to mine as well. We didn’t do much pre-work about threesome. All we knew was we need another girl.
Obviously, tinder for swingers apps were the best and the most efficient places to find 3som partners. We download one and created a profile on it. Within a day, we already found a girl who was willing to have a three way party with us. My boyfriend really liked her, which made me feel a little threatened. She was really cute though. I guessed there was no wrong in choosing a cute girl to have a pleasant couple dating with, so I agreed.
The next day, we arranged a threesome in a hotel. The girl came. She was even cuter than that in the profile. She was also a very experienced swinger. There was no negotiation. We went directly to bed, just like doing homework or finishing a task. We were kissing just like it played in the porn. I felt nothing weird until my boyfriend gave the third girl that look. I knew that look. It was the exact look he gave to me when I really made him happy. I was so jealous, but I controlled myself. When I saw him fingering her and she looked so satisfied, I really got furious. I couldn’t stand the look of them gave to each other. I couldn’t stand it anymore. I told them to stop. I really got angry and I really ruined that threesome.
After that, I thought about it a lot. The reason I exploded in that threesome hookup is we didn’t have a thorough talk about it and about our relationship. Before having a threesome, you should definitely talk about it to make sure your relationship is strong enough to handle that. Also, you need to set boundaries. Only in this way, can you be able to enjoy a successful threesome without hurting your relationship.